Can a Parent Influence Who Their Adult Child Attracts for a Love Partner?
I was recently approached about the possibility of holding a seminar for parents – to teach them how to attract the best love partners for their adult children. At first I thought, “Hey! What an awesome idea!” I’m a parent of six children and know all too well the headaches and heartaches you can sometimes run into when one of your children announces that they’re dating “so and so” … and you just can’t stand this person for whatever reason. I’ve been through it – as I’m sure many others have as well.
But – I came to the realization relatively quickly that my initial reaction to the seminar suggestion was purely coming from my human ego. Later that night I got my usual kick in the rear end from Spirit and heard this:
“What in the HELL are you doing? You can’t do that!”
I sat right up in bed and asked, “Why? Why not? Based on the Law of Attraction we can attract or manifest anything we wish for in our lives. Why can’t a parent attract the best love partner for their child?” I then received this very blunt answer:
“Because it’s NOT YOUR life to influence!”
Well talk about being humbled to the core! Spirit, as always, was right. Let me try to explain:
Indeed it is true: the basic principle of the Law of Attraction is that we are the sole creators of our lives – if we put our minds to it we can attract anything we desire for ourselves … just so long as it does not interfere with someone else’s Free Will. And that’s the main reason why we can’t attract love partners for our children. It would be interfering with THEIR free will, THEIR life path, THEIR divinely-intended life lessons and experiences. We would essentially be imposing OUR ego-based desires onto them. As a result … it just wouldn’t work anyways. We could try to manifest as hard as we can … but the Universe just won’t touch the idea. Just like we have our own soul plans, our children are no different! They too have their own plans .. and they’ll follow them whether we like it or not.
This doesn’t mean though that we can’t pray for our children and spiritually protect them the best we can. We can always send out our loving prayers and hopes, but we must honor the life path that was chosen by our childrens’ spirits prior to their birth. As hard as what it is for us, we must let go to a degree so that they can make their own mistakes and learn their own lessons. We can guide and give advice … but we can’t directly meddle.
Admittedly that’s an extremely hard pill to swallow – even for me. But who am I to argue with Spirit? I want to argue with Spirit … but how can I? I’m guilty of behaving this way … I will admit it. But I likewise see the reasoning behind what Spirit is trying to teach us. I don’t like it … but I guess I have to accept it.
The last piece of advice that I was given by Spirit that night was the concept of us definitely being able to pray for them, guide and give advice when necessary, and then spiritually protect them by performing a simple but very effective visualization technique: Envision your child or children as being enveloped in the most energized and beautiful pink and green light bubble. Pink and green are the colors of divine love and healing. Granted this energized bubble will not be as effective as it would be if your child/children were doing it for themselves – it will work to some extent but it won’t be 100% full force – but again this comes down to the concept of not interfering with another spirit’s Free Will.
Parenting isn’t easy. Especially when we reach those late teenage years and beyond. Our roles as parents do change drastically. And it can be difficult for us to sit back and watch our children make what we perceive as huge mistakes – including perhaps getting into some rather not-so-lovely romantic relationships. But – as hard as what it is – well it IS their life – NOT ours. And once we begin to fully accept that, our relationships with them will strengthen.
We must have faith that the principles and morals that we’ve instilled within them will “take effect” (and they always do!), and we will always be parents – but now our role is that of guidance. It is up to our children to accept that guidance or not – it is not up to us to influence their lives, love partners, or even career path for that matter! And in the meantime, we can silently pray, send out loving energies their way – and even help a wee bit with visualizing that healing bubble.
Message received Spirit! Lesson learned. Now to incorporate it! BLAH! LOL!
In my article, “Life Path Sequential Order,” I briefly outlined my own life experiences; in particular as it pertained to my love life – having to go through separation/divorce from an abusive marriage, having to move so far away with my 3 children, and subsequently meeting my intended life partner and soulmate. All of those experiences were divinely meant to occur – for specific reasons that to this day are still being revealed to me as I continue along my life path.
Now, throughout many of the transitions/changes that I had to endure, such as moving and meeting a new potential love partner – I tell you I was very lost … and scared! Prior to my first marriage – I had never lived on my own. I went from my mother’s house to my then husband’s literally overnight (and at a very young age). Yet there I was: having to face a MAJOR life change by leaving the abusive marriage and thus becoming a single mother of three small children.
Going through major life changes like that – it is quite unnerving. But if you ask for guidance and affirming divine signs – you will get them. But you need to pay close attention in order to see them. I know this to be true because I received MANY divine signs throughout that 4 year transition period (yes … in total it was four years from start to “finish”).
Realize that divine signs can come in almost any form and through anything. For example, hearing specific songs, number correspondences (i.e. dates of significance/importance to you), names of people and places, animals … seriously I can go on and on the list is never-ending. Divine signs can be seen anywhere, anytime and within anything. The main key point to remember is that signs will always hold some sort of special significance to the particular person that they are meant for. It may not mean a darn thing to their friends, family, etc. But to the individual, the signs will speak volumes and will have great significance. When they see those divine signs a great feeling of love, warmth, certainty and confirmation washes over them – with a great sense of peace and deep knowing. When you feel those emotions – you will know that you’ve received a divine sign.
Using my 4-year transition period of major life changes, I wish to illustrate to you exactly what I mean about those divine signs … how they will come to you quite unexpectedly and by almost endless possible means.
Let’s begin with the time I was searching for a new home upon first separating from my ex-husband:
I knew that where I was living at the time … I would never be able to survive; the cost of living was extremely expensive. I just wouldn’t have been able to do it on the limited income that I had. I wouldn’t have even been able to afford any rent let alone a mortgage; yet I wanted to remain a homeowner. I definitely didn’t wish to go backwards in progress! And definitely subsidized housing was out of the question for me. So what to do? I always would get the message from Spirit throughout the years: “The further north you go the better it is – it is cheaper, more peaceful, nurturing and beautiful.” I was then guided to the online real estate listing and started looking for properties way north of where I was. And I had known at the time just how much money I would be receiving from the sale of our marital home, so I already had the budget figured out and knew what to look for in terms of pricing. But I had asked Divine to guide me – to show me signs that I was in fact traveling in the right direction …
Within 2 days I had found a home I was interested in; priced at $19,900 and was being sold on a foreclosure. I just felt that this was my house – that it was intended for me. It had been sitting empty for FOUR YEARS (I just noticed another divine sign just now that I wasn’t aware of! Four years it was empty, yet my transition period took about 4 years!!).
Now, what drew me to the house wasn’t just the price or it’s outside appearance. It was, of all things, the dimensions of each room and entire square footage … and the address. The numbers in the dimensions spoke volumes to me and somehow managed to correlate with very important dates to me. I cannot remember now the numbers and all the dates, but some of them correlated to birthdays and dates of death for a few family members and ancestors that I descended from. But the address:
The house number is 126. Let’s separate those numbers: 1 – 2 – 6. The closing date of the sale of my old home was June 3rd. Look at the numbers: 1+2=3. 6= the 6th month … which is June. The house number correlated to the closing date.
I had asked for confirmation from Spirit – signs that this was what I was supposed to be doing. Boy did I get those signs or what?! But hmmmmm .. I am wondering. Could that divine sign also been giving me a clue as to just how long I would be living in this house? All three numbers add up to 9. Well, it has been, so far, almost 8 years that I have lived here (which is actually double the statistical norm for anyone to live in one place). So maybe next year we will be able to move??? We shall see … and I will definitely post an update to this article if that proves to be true!
Now, this is where I have to stop and say: PLEASE always listen to your intuition – no matter how “out there” your feelings may be!!! The next step in this process was to put in an offer on the property. I wanted to make sure that I had extra money left over after my purchase, so I had to “haggle” and try to bring the sellers down in price. In doing so, something told me – and I kid you not – an actual offer amount. That amount was: $14,500. I put in the offer with the real estate agents. Two days later I received a call from them and this is what they said, word for word (I will never forget those words): “Well Lisa, in all my years that I have been a real estate agent I have to say that I have NEVER EVER seen this happen. How you came up with this bid amount of 14,5 I don’t know. But, your offer has been accepted by the seller. I have never seen this before where a buyer’s first offer – and such a low one at that – and on a FORECLOSURE – has been accepted. I also need to tell you that 14,5 was the absolute lowest amount that the sellers were going to accept. Good for you Lisa. Congratulations – you are moving to Iroquois Falls.”
Iroquois Falls … I had never been here before. Not ever. Yet, for some strange reason I was attracted to the town’s name and felt a sense of familiarity about it. Once again … I simply followed my intuition … and indeed the divine signs that were given to me. And I am so glad that I had because I tell you when I arrived here – all alone with my children – I couldn’t have moved to a better place. This community was so nurturing, loving and helpful for my first two years here. I was warmly welcomed by neighbours and was “taken care of.” Our first Christmas here many neighbours sent over boxes of food and supplies … we even had someone put our name in to have Santa come and visit the kids. My furnace broke down my second winter here – a neighbour came and fixed it free of charge. The list of charitable and loving donations and assistance I received goes on – and I will forever be thankful to my neighbours and their support and love that they showed us.
Fast forwarding to the spring of 2007 – I had been living in Iroquois Falls for almost three years. By this time I had purchased my quarter horse mare Apache (in September of 2006) and was boarding her with my now husband Yvon. Yvon had his accident with Apache in January of 2007. By the beginning of February Yvon and I started dating (which that in itself started rather spontaneously and without warning … at the time I wasn’t even actively looking for a relationship with anyone!).
Dating. Oh my good Lord. I was so scared at the time. I would frequently question myself: What in God’s name are you doing? Don’t you dare make another mistake! What if this guy is just simply using you? Don’t get your hopes up now. And what if he is just like your ex? You’re going to give up your control and freedom all over again? What’s wrong with you woman?!
But yet, I absolutely adored this man. He made me feel things that I had never felt before. You know those times when you first start dating someone – all the electricity that flies around? Your heart beats a mile a minute just thinking about them, you question what is to happen next, you can’t wait to see them again, and will actually do crazy things like “skip school” or take a day off work just to be with them (yes, I did that … I actually skipped school to head out to the farm to see Yvon!! Bad Lisa! I don’t even think he knows about that LOL!!). All of this was happening to me – and it made me feel so good. But yet, at the same time like I say I was so fearful and questioning. So once again I turned to Spirit – God – and asked to be shown specific divine signs that would tell me I was on the right path.
I got them all right …
One day while out at the farm, I cannot recall where Yvon was, but I was in the house cleaning up the kitchen for him when I just happened to glance over at a small table. On top of the table was a letter from a credit collection agency. I know what you’re thinking: so what?! Well, hold on and I will tell you.
At the time I too had a credit collection agency after my tail – for a credit card debt that was racked up when I was still married to my ex-husband. They were looking for a grand total of $3,500.
The letter that I saw on the table at the farmhouse, while it was addressed to Yvon, there were uncanny similarities. The name of the credit collection agency was the exact same. The amount that they were asking for was the exact same. And … it too was for a credit card debt … to the same credit card company! But the real kicker about this letter … it was dated August 31,1997!!!! WHY ON GOD’S GREEN EARTH WAS A LETTER DATED 1997 LAYING RIGHT ON TOP OF THIS TABLE 10 YEARS AFTER IT WAS ORIGINALLY SENT TO HIM?! And to add even more to this – my dear grandfather passed away August 31st, 1997 … the exact same day as Princess Diana … and ahem … the exact same day that this letter to Yvon was addressed!!!
Because I asked God to give me a divine sign that’s why. To this day not even Yvon can explain why that letter was there.
To add to the letter, there were also signs given to me through name correlations between my family and Yvon’s:
Yvon his first name: I have an uncle named Yvon.
Yvon’s second name Joseph: My father’s middle name is Joseph.
Yvon’s mother’s middle name Sarah: My daughter’s name is Sarah.
Yvon’s sister’s name Louise: That is my middle name and my other daughter Danielle’s middle name. The name Louise has been in my family for many generations.
Yvon has a brother named Daniel. The name Daniel is the male version of the name Danielle.
And Yvon’s entire family is French-speaking. My biological father’s family is likewise so (but I wasn’t raised by my father).
Looks like I was on the right path huh?! Too many correlations to be that of “coincidence.” It was all MEANT TO BE.
If you are unsure of your path … especially if you are fearful of your path ahead … ASK for those wonderful (and quite beautiful) divine signs. If you ask … you will get them. And pay attention to them when you do get them! Look for those correlations and meanings (which by the way will come in many different forms and ways like I mentioned earlier – and they may not come through like mine. As mentioned they will come in a way that will be most significant and personal to you and you alone – and they will either be AFFIRMING messages like mine or conversely WARNING messages – it will depend on the specific – and be specific – questions and directions you ask spirit for). And definitely follow through with whatever the signs are trying to tell you because I tell you straight up – if you do follow through you will find that everything works out exactly the way it’s supposed to – and you will reach your goals.
And if you ever question whether something was meant to be or not in your past, once again look for the signs and correlations. Here is one final example of what I mean:
The birth of my twin girls (pictured at left) was meant to be. They were true gifts from God and I felt that I was being given back exactly what I had lost. If you remember from my “Life Path Sequential Order” article I divulged that I had given birth to a little girl when I was 17 – at which time I was forced into adoption. What I didn’t mention was when my son was 3 years old I had a miscarriage … about 8 months before I conceived my twin girls. So essentially, I “lost” two children. I was extremely devastated by both experiences and they always weighed very heavily on my heart and spirit.
To confirm that my twin girls were true gifts and meant to be for me:
Their actual due date was August 31 – which was exactly one year to the very day that my late grandfather (and Princess Diana) passed away! However, because I was so big I didn’t carry to full term. I went into full labor on my own and the girls were born almost 2 weeks early. They were born August 14; very healthy and strong babies with no complications to speak of (there were 2 other twins born the same day delivered by the same doctor – my girls were the only ones NOT in incubators). There’s a few smaller correlations/signs but I think you get the picture at this point.
And no … I did not take any fertility drugs … and there was absolutely no history of having twins on either side of my family or their father’s.
Divine signs. They are there. All you need to do is ask … and look!
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