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How to Find Your Soul Mate – Your Life Partner

Finding That One True Love – Soul Mates & Life Partners

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Copyright 2008 Lisa Caza. Photo of Lisa Caza & husband on their wedding day

By Lisa Caza of Soul Psychics © 2014

You know, over the course of my 20 years of performing readings for folks, one of the most common questions that I am asked is “How can I find my soul mate – or as you would say – life partner?”

Well, within my readings with clients I have noticed an extremely strong “trend” or message from Spirit – and it is the same message over and over. So I am actually going to post this seemingly “universal answer” for everyone to see here – for those who don’t wish to have a reading but still would love to know the answer to this rather infamous question.

Firstly, you must come to realize that you cannot sufficiently love another if you don’t first love yourself (just like the old advice one would give a new mother with a baby: you can’t take care of the baby unless you first take care of yourself)! That is the most important step that a person can take! And in doing so, did you know that the more that you show yourself love then quite ultimately the more that your heart centre opens. Now, our heart centres – or heart chakras if you wish – that is where we both send and thus receive love in our lives (including receiving messages from divine).

Let’s expand on that concept a bit more here for I don’t wish to create confusion. Self-love isn’t just about our attitudes, perceptions of self, self-esteem, how we eat, exercise, and so on. For most of us those are the first things we actually tend to think about when someone tells us to “take care of ourselves” or “love ourselves more.” However – many of us forget the spiritual and emotional aspect of self – and the opening of our heart centres.

Ask yourself this one question: When was the last time you spent quality time with yourself? Now I know what you’re thinking – how do I nurture the emotional and spiritual aspect of self? It’s quite easy actually. What you do is you focus on and pursue all those things that you hold dear to your heart: your hobbies, your general interests and skills, and activities that you would most thoroughly enjoy doing – it CANNOT be related to your career path – unless it is something artistic/creative in nature like for example photography. In order to help illustrate to you what spirit is meaning here (and to help get you thinking), I will give you a list of examples. Now, by no means is this list limited – the possibilities are virtually endless. But what you need to keep in mind is that you need to concentrate/focus on things that attract/interest YOU personally – and you definitely need to steer clear of more “negative” types of activities – for example if you don’t wish to have partner that drinks, then please do not go looking at nightclubs, bars or dances! Some spiritually-fulfilling activities are for example: painting, writing lessons, dancing lessons, book critiquing, singing, acting, nature photography, playing a sport or a musical instrument, taking up a class to learn a new skill or to hone an already existing one, volunteering time at a local animal’s or women’s shelter or hospice, hiking or some other sort of outdoor activity, pursuing/growing your own metaphysical abilities, flying/traveling, taking a more active role in a church or spiritual community, horseback riding (I always use horseback riding as an example as that’s how I ultimately met my husband!), joining mutual interest groups (i.e. NA, AA, Single Parents, spiritual/metaphysical groups and/or dating sites, etc.), jewellery-making, and so on (literally this list could be a mile long). Like I say those are just simply examples off the top of my head – you need to focus on YOURSELF and what YOU are naturally drawn to/interested in. And another point to remember too is that you cannot limit yourself. Don’t place limitations on what you pursue – pursue ALL that you want to pursue!

So the bottom line here, if you really wish to find that ultimate life partner – or as most term them: your “soul mate” – then this would be a first ACTION STEP that you need to take in order to reach that goal. Realize that the Universe/Divine does try to help us in reaching our goals. But we can’t be helped sufficiently unless we make half of the effort required. All of the prayers and positive affirmations – they’re great and strongly encouraged. However, how good are those prayers and affirmations that you put out there if you don’t do your share of work in your relationship with Divine?

It might sound rather self-centered to focus on yourself first, but if one takes a few moments to ponder over what Spirit has been suggesting to countless folks through my readings, it actually makes complete sense.

So show yourself more love! Get more involved with and for yourself so that your heart centre (chakra) will grow and open up more – which will allow you to receive more love in your life! Once you start doing this you will be amazed (and thrilled) at just how many wonderful new connections and doors of opportunity will be created … including potential love partners!

And hey as a side note here too: As you start pursuing all of those things that you hold dear to your heart …  STOP LOOKING FOR HIM OR HER!!! Realize that when you’re looking for them, on a subconscious level there is this underlying “fear” or “nervousness” that automatically goes with it (i.e. “I’m never going to find him/her. I don’t know where to look. What if I miss them somehow?, and so on. ) – which in turn creates negative energy (which we don’t want if we’re trying to manifest something for ourselves. Remember the Law of Attraction: what you put out you attract more of. So the more negative you put out there, the more you’ll be blocked from the positive). So STOP THAT!!! Stop looking and just concentrate on yourself only because that will be when they “magically appear” in your life!


Making New Love Relationships Work

By Danielle Daoust of Global Psychics

I’ve received so many calls in the past few days about new relationships and Valentine’s Day disappointments that I realized it was time to share the advice I have seen come through my readings time and again…the biggest problem is that our fear buttons are so often triggered when we find someone we want to care about, and to have care about us… We want our new love to reassure us, we want to know how they feel about us and so we look for clues in their every action and reaction. … and we press for affirmations, validations – and yes, that dreaded word, commitment – far too soon. Don’t be in such a hurry to hear those all-important words, “I Love You” – or to say them. When love is proclaimed too soon, it is actually a warning signal!

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Psychic Lisa Caza with hubby. First dance at wedding reception image pasted into secondary horse image.

There is something magical in a new connection that seems to send our common sense flying out the door. We get so excited that a special someone might want us, that we overlook some important clues about whether or not our excitement in warranted. One of the calls I received this week was about 6-month long distance relationship… although my client was “head over heels” for her, they had never actually met. Yet, as I looked into the energy, I could see that there was no real impediment to their meeting, so I checked, and sure enough, she lived only 10 minutes away from him.After the first month of this connection, common sense should have warned this young man that something was wrong that his new love would not meet him… and after 7 months of broken promises to meet, you would think he would see the truth… it was time to let go of the hopes, to move on to other possibilities.

Long distance relationships are tricky. No matter how long or how frequently you have connected with someone over the phone, – even with a webcam – no matter the number and length of the email or text messages, you don’t really have a relationship until you have spent some solid time together. You need to know how your love “smells” – to have had some real intimacy, not necessarily physically, but certainly emotionally.

The trick to making a new relationship work is to give it time to develop and air to breathe. Another common mistake in new relationships is to do too much for our new love… he’s out of work, and you have a spare room, so you let him move in, expecting that he’ll get a job soon and be able to pay his share…. She’s a struggling Mom and needs a new car, so you lend her the money expecting she’ll pay it back when she gets that promotion. Too often, because we moved forward too quickly – we let our pent up feelings take control – we miss important queues. Because we want to be loved so desperately, we avoid seeing the amber lights that tell us to slow down and take a second look – and so we end up feeling used and abused… A relationship that gets intense almost from the beginning will burn out before it has a chance to spread strong roots.

Yet, we can avoid these disappointments very easily – and also have a better chance of making that new relationship work in the long run…

When you meet someone special, take a good deep breath, allow yourself to shift into objective observer mode so that your Third Eye will have a chance to read this new love. Stay present, “in the now”, don’t be thinking of what next, nor of what came before… relax, smile, allow yourself to float for a bit, to allow the energy and the relationship to move along as it will… be a little detached so that you can see your new love truly – and whether this relationship is worth your emotional investment…. when love is free to evolve naturally, at its own pace, it has a chance to grow and to last.

Some Do’s and Don’ts for Grounding a New Love

  • Do – Stay Present, Keep Your Focus on the NOW
  • Don’t tell your life story on the first date
  • Don’t ask too many questions
  • Do keep your hopes, dreams and expectations in check!!!
  • Don’t jump to outcome
  • Don’t entertain thoughts of commitment
  • Do get on with your life
  • Don’t be hanging by the phone waiting for the next contact
  • Don’t break dates with your friends to be with your new love
  • Do relax, have fun, enjoy getting to know your new love interest – and yourself – better
  • Don’t allow yourself to let anxiety take control
  • Don’t try to mold the relationship or direct the flow

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