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The Biggest Barrier to Finding Your Soul Mate

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It is simple – FEAR: fear of failure, fear of difference, of love, of hurt, fear of the consequences and even life itself, in the futile search for perfection. People get stuck in the same behaviour patterns, being fearful, fossilized and boring, getting the same joyless results, while becoming increasingly unhappy and unattractive in the process.

They take their fearful behavior to every situation and keep getting the same outcomes. Like a vicious cycle, fear gives them only the negatives, or no partners at all, which then reinforces their perceived unworthiness and cements the rejection even more.

Fear comes through either shyness, inexperience of appropriate behavior, lack of confidence and self-esteem, a reluctance to deal with the unknown or, the most common reason, the wish to avoid being hurt, especially if one has been hurt before.

But pain is the other side of pleasure and one cannot have pleasure without that pain. Moreover, pleasure always comes before pain in any new relationship, so when we avoid pain, we get no pleasure either, which then keeps us isolated, lonely and unhappy.

Everything that happens in our life is meant to develop us to heights of excellence, to hone our coping and survival skills to perfection. When we rob ourselves of the opportunity to sharpen our resilience and determination and to give us more experience, we remain weak, inadequate beings, dominated by fear, achieving very little and living only half the life we are capable of.

Habits Decide Our Future
With fear as a debilitating and paralyzing force, it tends to keep people with the same habits as they take refuge in behavior which makes them feel comfortable. It won’t yield them anything much, but at least it makes them feel ’safe’ and secure.

As it is habits that decide our future, such behavior merely gives more of the same and keeps the person in a rut of negativity. Of course, there is only a 6 foot different between a rut and a grave!

When we are fearful, we prefer to hang back, to find numerous excuses as to why our actions won’t yield anything of substance and why someone isn’t good for us. Our search for the perfect mate makes 99.9% of people we meet highly unsuitable.

We gradually convince ourselves of the negatives while the positives seldom get the chance to affect us. That’s why some people remain single for years, their dating skills gradually being eroded until they feel totally inadequate to deal with a potential date.

Anything we do, or any decision we make, is merely a result. We can change the result every time we wish by just changing our expectations and approach, by doing something in a different way and having an open mind about the possibilities.

If you have been living the same way for a while, making the same kind of decisions and getting the same results, get out of that comfort zone and ditch the fear today. TRY SOMETHING NEW! The least you will get is another result. It could be one amazing, unexpected surprise to change your life for good.

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Spring Cleaning – Materially and Spiritually


Soul Psychics wants to wish each and every one of you a very happy, peaceful and fun Easter holiday. Spring has finally sprung – bringing with it much renewed energy, new aspirations, and exciting new adventures for many. This season seems to be all about “spring cleaning.” Of course, not just in the material sense where we all clean out our closets, basements and garages of unwanted/unused items, but it has become quite apparent to me that many folks are also doing a lot of “spring cleaning” spiritually and mentally: letting go of past hurts, negativity, unsupportive relationships (both love and friendships), etc. Which to me actually makes a lot of sense if you really stop to think about it.Soul Psychics by Lisa Caza

Realize that the concept of spring cleaning in itself is to allow room to move and grow – and perhaps to even allow NEW interests, etc into our lives. Being able to move forward on our life paths has the very same concept. In order to make positive change or positive movement, or to  likewise pursue or create new adventures, paths or relationships that are much more positive, fulfilling and supportive of our growth and spiritual levels, we must sometimes “make room” by literally letting go of all the old and/or negative first.

I know that Daylight Savings Time is not practiced in every area of the world, however I wish for everyone to sit for a moment and seriously ponder the phrase that we think about when it comes time to change our clocks ahead: In spring we “spring forward” – in other words we turn our clocks 1 hour ahead. If you think for a moment, it’s almost as if there’s a blatant message in that. Every year it is a message that we are to move ahead on our paths in a positive manner. More growth, more renewal, more progress – moving forward once again.

Just as the trees blossom for another year, the flowers in our gardens bloom once more, baby bunnies and fawns being born, and the grass once again grows strong and green – nature is renewing her path each and every spring – with new beginnings and growth every time. I really don’t believe that there is any coincidence here – we too should be letting go, moving forward and starting fresh/anew with new goals, paths, and relationships. It was divinely meant.

Change is never easy – it can be very uncomfortable and in all actuality can also be rather scary. But realize that without change essentially we would NEVER have ANY positive in our lives. We would never learn, grow and change as a result. If you think about it, why change if everything is always positive in our lives? There would be no real incentive for anything. And really, I personally believe that life would be very boring! We only change when we don’t like something or feel uncomfortable about something. We only take action when Divine throws some negativity at us along our paths. Change … and yes even us feeling some negativity once in a while … is necessary for our growth, learning, and overall success along our life and spiritual paths.

Remember that every change process and negative event in the end brings about positive change and forward movement for us. No matter how difficult or hurtful that change process may be at the time. And most definitely – you are never alone and Divine never throws at us anything that we ourselves could not feasible handle emotionally, spiritually and psychologically. We WILL get through the changes and we WILL be in a more positive place afterwards.

As a last note, also remember that everything happens for a reason folks. Spring and the concepts of “spring cleaning,” forward movement/progress, and positive change – it’s all connected it seems. Take advantage of this wonderful new beginning!

By Lisa Caza, Soul Psychics.com