Life Path Sequential Order:
Is It All Just Coincidence? You Decide!
In the Story of How I Met My Life Partner & Soulmate
By Lisa Caza
* As an addition to this article, feel free to read “Divine Signs: Guiding and Affirming Messages From Spirit.” And the newest article: “Questioning the Concept of Free Will.” It too shows how everything is meant to happen along our life path. But if we ask for signs that we’re going the right way – we definitely receive them!
Everything happens for a reason. That I am sure of. Even the most horrible of experiences in life happen for a reason – but of course in those moments we’re definitely not willing to accept this concept.
But at the end of the day, once we get through it all (and we always do get through it), if we reflect over our pasts we can realize the amazing sequential and divine order that has occurred … and throughout our ENTIRE lives. Each and every situation and event – both positive and negative ones – whether created by ourselves or by someone else in our lives – it all has divine purpose (which leads us to bigger and brighter things later on). Did you know that even your very own thoughts, decisions, actions and inaction they too all have divine reasoning – causing this eventual sequential order? That means that there are NEVER any mistakes in life. But in knowing this, it kind of challenges one’s beliefs when it comes to free will doesn’t it? I do still wonder just how much free will we do have – especially in having the profound insight that what we THINK is free will actually isn’t. Here now I am going to try and illustrate this concept to you – please bare with me but we DO get to a point eventually…
This is my story – well – a very brief outline really considering a lot of what I myself have had to go through it would most definitely fill an entire novel. I wish to share my story with you because like I mentioned a moment ago; when I reflect over it all I can see how my path has led me to the here and now. Every action I took, every decision I made, and even things that I experienced due to the actions of others … ALL OF IT led me to where I am today: divine reasoning leading to life path sequential order. Take out just one event or action … I often wonder where I would be. Obviously not here!
While my entire life path has most certainly contributed to where I am today – a lot of “crap” was experienced in childhood as well. But I will spare you the gruesomeness that was my life back then and just for the sake of this article, begin when I was a young teenager and my relationship with my ex-husband.
I was fifteen when I first met and started dating my now ex-husband. Such a young age! Of course at that age I refused to listen to any of my elders and would go out of my way to be with this man (of whom was/is 22 years my senior!!!). I was too wrapped up with the “coolness” that he was a hard core biker who hung around with other bikers – it was a party type of lifestyle almost every weekend. And I was drawn in … even though I never did drink or do drugs I was still entranced by all of it. Understandably my elders were very concerned – they even tried to stop me by reporting to police. But I wouldn’t listen and the police wouldn’t help either. So I continued on …. and in having knowledge within psychology today I do realize I was “looking for daddy” (as I didn’t know my biological father until I was 24 years old).
At the age of 17 I gave birth to my first-born baby (this is another story in itself but due to my age and lifestyle I was coerced into putting her up for adoption. We have reunited however – about 2 years ago now). After her birth I moved out of province with this man (who is her father of course) – moved away from all my family and away from all that I knew.
We remained together for approximately 14 years … with another 3 children having been born in that time (a boy when I turned 20 and then twin girls almost 5 years later). But those 14 years were not the happiest in my life. Sure, there were good times. However, quite frequently I was subjected to my then husband’s dominance; he was very controlling, domineering and abusive – while I don’t ever like to make excuses I have to admit that it was always the drugs and alcohol that would cause this psychotic type of behavior to rise up within him. Sober he was an “okay” guy. But drunk he was quite obnoxious, abusive and controlling – especially to any woman or love partner that he is currently involved in (I feel sorry for the women he may have been with since our separation if they’ve had to deal with even an ounce of what I had to …. to this day I live with physical reminders of the treatment I had endured – this is why I haven’t done too much public/in-person work. However as of late I’ve started opening myself to in person appearances and thus adopted the attitude of who are people to judge? But believe me if I ever get the money to afford it – which will indeed need to be quite the huge sum of cash, I won’t be hesitating to eliminate these painful final reminders just in order to give my self-esteem that final utmost boost!).
Leading up to the end of our marriage I grew increasingly resentful, angry and hateful towards him and my life. It was to the point where I hated him to even touch me. Believe me when I say that it is quite the awful feeling to have towards another person … especially when that person is your own husband. Now, to top it off I want you to take a few steps back for a moment and remember something: I was 15 when we first started out together. So just to add to it all, because I became involved with someone so early in my life – I literally missed out on the learning, growing, and experiencing that a normal teenager and girl in her early 20’s would normally experience. As a result I was yearning for more for myself; feeling that I have missed out on so much. So that added to my own negative attitude.
The nightmare finally ended in November of 2003 – where he went way too far and the police were called in. That was the beginning of the end and the start of a new beginning for me…
We sold our home and I moved to where I am now the following June. I moved a total of 8 hours away and straight north!!! Why??? Well, I will get to that … there were reasons that I wasn’t even aware of at the time …
Before I came to the strong realization about the concept of what I call “Life Path Sequential Order,” I would always question, “Why me?!” “Why did I go through all of that?” Why didn’t I listen to my elders all those years ago and just behave like a good girl? Why was I so defiant?” “Why did I move out of province with him? Why did I put up with that horrible abuse all those years? Why did I move so far away now? Why did I come to a community where I can’t even get work because I am not completely bilingual? Why did I buy such a money pit of a house? Why why why why?!?!?!”
Well today, I can tell you why … at least for most of it.
It wasn’t because I was being a little brat or “trash.” It all happened for a reason.
All of the abuse that I suffered – I now use that experience to draw upon when I am counseling other abused women and clients. I can relate to them in ways that even some counselors cannot. I understand their thinking processes and reasonings. I can also understand that trials and hurdles that they must overcome in being single mothers after they leave their relationships/marriages. I needed to experience the abuse so that I could have that understanding – so that I could better guide those in need. I wouldn’t have ANY of that valuable insight had I listened to my elders all those years ago and hadn’t moved with him, etc.
When it comes to moving a total of 8 hours away as a single mom with 3 young children in tow, originally my plans at that time, were I wanted to get as far away from him as physically possible … and … the price was right for the house where to this day although I still experience some financial difficulties, I do not have to pay any mortgage or rent. I own this house outright. However, unfortunately I was so wrapped up with the idea of remaining a homeowner and in the end saving myself a monthly expense, I literally did NOT see how much of disrepair this house was (and still is) actually in. It just keeps getting worse and worse. One day I swear it’s going to fall right on top of my head. Roof leaking in numerous areas, basement leaking, busted up windows … believe me I am not exaggerating. In fact I’m not even telling the full extent of the disrepair … and admittedly even with my understanding of this life path sequential order I am still kicking myself in the rear and not understanding why I bought this particular place. UGH! I guess it’s served its main purpose – but now with us NEEDING to get back on our horse rescue farm we’re becoming very discouraged & depressed. I guess you could say I’m once again in one of those moments in life where I just can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. I hope for my sake it comes soon …
Anyways I’m rambling. Let’s get back on track here!
As the years progressed, I was given even more reasons why I moved so far up this way …
Had I not moved here … I would not have met and subsequently married my intended life partner and soulmate!
In 2006 I purchased a mare and due to an argument that I had with the property owner’s boyfriend, I then required a new place to board her – and immediately! A friend of mine suggested “this guy” … well “this guy” came a mere hour after calling him with his horse trailer and we moved Apache to his farm. That was in September and we were becoming friends over the next few months.
But, in January 2007 my mare Apache spooked in the barn as he reached up to turn the light on … and she kicked him right square in the face; breaking his jaw in several placed and dislodging his left eye out of its socket. I caught word and raced to the hospital the following day … he was a mess. I remember holding his hand, crying and apologizing to no end. As I left I kissed him gently on the cheek good bye and I remained at the farm to tend to the rest of the horses for him.
Upon returning home after his surgeries he wasn’t able to do any lifting at all, so I would help with feeding the horses and household chores. Our relationship began to take on a new form … and we started dating not too long after (not long at all because I recall wanting to be with him for Valentine’s day!)!
Then, to add insult to injury … quite literally … we were forced to move from the farm and sell all the horses as the farm was sold out from underneath him (he was only renting at the time and he couldn’t find another farm). So that was yet another harsh experience to go through … and by August of that same year (2007) I found myself opening my doors of my home to him and he moved in. And we’ve been together ever since!!
We were married, on horseback in a cowboy style wedding, August 24, 2008.
EVERYTHING that I had gone through with my ex-husband, my moving here, Yvon’s accident with Apache … ALL of it happened for a reason. If none of that happened – we wouldn’t be where we are today. Quite literally. Think for a moment – had I not stayed with my ex-husband all those years to suffer the abuse, I wouldn’t have been inclined to move so far away from him upon separation. Had I not married my ex to begin with, would I have had the money to purchase this house here? Not likely. Then again, I would have had no reason to purchase it most likely.
Had I not remained with the ex, I wouldn’t have been blessed with my 4 wonderful children. In fact, consider I may not have had any children at all if things were different. If I had no children but still met Yvon those many years later, I wouldn’t have had any because a year after we married I was diagnosed with cancer and as a result I had to have a hysterectomy to remove it. I am extremely thankful that I was given the opportunity to have children … and long before I had to have that hysterectomy!
And I don’t think I need to mention that if I hadn’t moved here, I wouldn’t have purchased Apache and thus never met Yvon. His accident, while absolutely horrifying, it was the catalyst that brought us together as a couple – and even more so when he was forced to move from the farm. If he hadn’t moved in with me, I wonder if he would have proposed on Christmas Day like he had (which believe it or not was only a few months after he moved in!).
As mentioned earlier, I still question why this particular house … why I bought it even though it’s so old and direly needing very extensive repairs. But in seeing and knowing the divine sequential order that has taken place throughout my entire life, I am hopeful that this too is also for a reason or reasons that will most likely become apparent later on.
You can go back to the very beginning of your life when it comes to divine sequential order. For example I didn’t know my biological father until I was 24. If I had known him as a child, perhaps I would not have even gone with my ex-husband (consider his age and lifestyle. My father would NOT have approved and he would have stopped it!).
It’s so very hard to keep the perspective that everything happens for a reason … especially when we’re right in the midst of the chaos and events. But one thing to note is that we will never experience something that doesn’t have reasoning behind it – nor will God ever put us in a situation that we would not be able to handle.
Throughout those trying years I often cursed those situations. However, now I am extremely thankful for my entire life path. If it weren’t for those experiences and moments in time … who would I be? Where would I be? God only knows where I’d be.
I now don’t really wish that I could “turn back the clock” to do things differently. Quite frankly, I am extremely grateful for where I am, what I have, and who I am with. Who knows, without having traveled that rocky road I might have wound up in even worse situations … or never would have met my intended life partner.
I believe the old adage is true: “The rockiest of roads often lead to the most rewarding destinations in the end.”
Try to keep that in mind whenever you face a difficult situation or life event. While it may not be immediately apparent at the time, there is divine intent behind it… no matter whether it was your decision or the decision of another … and it WILL at SOME POINT lead you to something bigger and better later on down the road.
And by the way … had it not been for me even separating from my ex-husband those years ago, I would not have met anyone else in the online metaphysical field … I wouldn’t even have worked at a very well-known psychic website, nor on my own website here! It was our separation that made me take action for myself and look for work. Only 2 weeks after my separating from my ex husband I landed my second and most significant online psychic job!
And here’s a last tidbit for you: the second year that I was living on my own here I decided to put myself through schooling in order to obtain a degree in social work and psychology. Well … little did I know there was divine reasoning and intent behind THAT decision too! Remember the “friend” that I mentioned earlier who suggested I contact “this guy” to board my mare Apache? Well, I met that “friend” in school!!! Had I not gone to school, I wouldn’t have met her at all – and once again I would not have met my husband Yvon! She was the one that ultimately introduced me to him.
Everything happens for a reason … and almost always for reasons that you don’t even know about or realize until later on!
By Lisa Caza
* As an addition to this article, feel free to read “Divine Signs: Guiding and Affirming Messages From Spirit.” And the newest article: “Questioning the Concept of Free Will.” It too shows how everything is meant to happen along our life path. And … if we ask for signs that we’re going the right way – we definitely receive them!
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