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Confronting & Finalizing Long-Standing Issues

Get Answers & Closure Before It’s Too Late!

I have to say that over the course of the last two months I have noticed a frequently occurring “theme” amongst a lot of my friends, family and clientele … and admittedly I’m also included in this (much to my displeasure lol)! And I started to notice this “theme” approximately two weeks after my now late ex-husband crossed over (which was this past Sept. 3rd).

I’m going to have to be extremely blunt here because there’s just no other way to say it:

It is time for all of us to confront any and all long-standing issues that we may have had with our family members and friends … and before it’s “too late.” So in other words, any family disputes that haven’t been resolved, grudges that are being held against others, unspoken truths that need to be stated, required questions and/or answers that are desired, and so on: everything needs to be addressed and some sort of closure reached. Even if it’s just to speak your own truth of what you experienced with those certain individuals.

As mentioned, my noticing this theme for the vast majority of us started shortly after my ex-husband passed away. And what occurred just two days before he died and for a few weeks afterwards is basically the “lesson” that Spirit wishes for us to learn and realize. So with that said, I will self-disclose here … just to get my point across.

No one knew that he was sick – he didn’t tell anyone until the last moment (quite literally). My husband Yvon and I went away for a bit for our 10th anniversary. Upon my return I see a message from my ex-husband stating that he was in hospital going through tests to see what was wrong with him (he was severely jaundiced and in a lot of pain). Of course I responded and told him to please let me know as soon as he received results. A few days pass without any word, so I sent another message requesting an update. About an hour later I received a response (and I am going to copy and paste his actual message):

Well no good news….I have cancer of the liver…very agressive…there giving me weeks to go…chemo could make it even more agressive..if You want to call and talk about.X-XXX-XXXX is my cell…k?

That was on a Friday morning, and you better believe I called him immediately. You could tell that he was in some discomfort, but he was good where we spoke for well over an hour. In that hour we both confessed truths to each other and made sure we let each other know that no matter what there was still love there despite it all – and we cried. I told him I would do my best to try and get our 3 children down to see him.

The following Saturday morning, as soon as I woke up I sent him a message to check up on him. Right away he called me – and not a word of a lie his condition was severe. At that point he couldn’t even talk all that well – all he could do was gasp for air and speak one word at a time in between his gasps and grunts, but what he did say to me will forever haunt me: “Lisa, I’m not going to see you. I’m not going to make it. Remember when I had double-pneumonia? Well this is worse. A lot worse. Call my brother. He doesn’t know.” Through both of our tears I promised him I would contact his brother (which I did), and I made sure again that I said “I will always have a special place in my heart for you” … that was the last that I ever spoke to him. Within hours, he degraded to the point where he was no longer coherent. I would receive update calls from his first ex-wife throughout the day and evening: he wasn’t going to make it to the morning.  By 10pm that night they had to sedate him, then at shortly after 4am Sunday morning he crossed over.

Now … as many folks who have read my book may already know: our children refused to speak to or see him due to a lot of anger and resentment – they felt that he essentially abandoned them. And Yvon and I would frequently ask them to at least talk to their biological father – the most recent being this past July – 2 months before he died … but they refused. Because we were given literally NO TIME before he passed and nothing was said to us about ANY kind of illness prior, well as a result all three children were dealing with a lot of regret, self-blame and guilt, and no real sense of closure for the long-standing issues that they were carrying. My ex-husband had numerous occasions to tell either me or my husband Yvon that he was ill (the 3 of us were very good friends and spoke quite frequently!) … but he never did. I did confront him about that when he could still talk that Friday, but his response was: “Well I didn’t know. I just thought it was an infection or something.” So no warning … no chance to arrange any sort of meeting for my children to confront!

So that’s the point here folks. And as mentioned, it isn’t just within my own personal life that I have seen this “theme” – over the past few months I have seen it occur with many of my close friends as well. I have asked Spirit for guidance on this, and apparently it is a “global task” that needs to be accomplished. Furthermore, it seems that this period or phase is going to last for the rest of this year.

Now for some more self-disclosure: I have been estranged from my biological mother and brother for over 7 years (and before this there was a period of time of I think 5 years that I didn’t speak to nor see my mother). I will not go into details (because that would essentially take a full book!), but I will say that I have refused to speak to them due to A LOT of past issues, things that have been said and done to me (past and more recent), and so on (yuck!). They are, in a nutshell, sociopaths and chaos-creators to the core – very dark and negative energies. And after the last “bout” of chaos that I experienced, I made the ultimate decision to nix them out of my life permanently. I was/am tired of it to say the least.

Anyways, as I write this I have a 7-page letter open in my Word Program. I’ve stated MY TRUTH as I experienced it as a child and as an adult, I addressed a lot of issues that I have been carrying with me, and I’ve made sure that I was clear that the letter was in no way an attempt to reconnect. This letter has been sitting here now for over a week. I just can’t bring myself to send it … yet.

But I know it has to be done … before it is “too late.” So I want you all to know that I can relate to how difficult confronting issues is going to be, but Spirit apparently has a plan for us in doing so. I have been told that doing this will release us from “prison” – for that’s basically what we’ve done to ourselves in holding on to these long-standing issues. Once released, I have the sense that we’ll start to notice more positive opportunities entering our lives, and we will progress more successfully along our life paths – reaching goals more easily, and so on. We will also notice a lot more inner peace, fulfillment and happiness. Spirit is trying to give us this chance: between now and New Year’s is the time to do it I am told – for we will be much more strongly loved and supported by Spirit during this time – so we’ll have “extra support” between now and then as we go through the process of confronting and finalizing. So yup. It has to be done. And before we “lose the chance” and have that horrible realization like my children got … that it would be “too late.”

Much love to everyone. And if anyone would like to have a wee bit of guidance to get started on your own process of confronting and finalizing, I would be more than happy to help! Like I say, I have to do it too: writing out a letter is easy – it’s actually sending it that’s the most difficult!

**** EDIT: I just received a response from this article and the person who contacted me stated that they have long-standing issues, and truths needing to be told to an ex, but they were concerned that their ex wouldn’t accept, understand or appreciate what they had to say. Listen folks: this process isn’t about THEM! It is NOT your responsibility when it comes to a person accepting or understanding information given to them – which in this case is your truth. This process that Spirit is wanting a lot of us to do is about YOU ONLY – NOT the other person! Speak your truth – and all of it … for that’s all that matters!



Clearing & Protecting From Negative Energy

How To Get Rid of Negative Energy and Protect Your Positive Energy Field

Feeling the negative emotions and energies of other people can be extremely draining on us – especially when we have rather strong empathic abilities. It gets to a point where sometimes there’s so much negative CRAP going around that eventually you can’t decipher who’s emotions are who’s anymore. Then, like a downward spiral, if we’re not careful or spiritually aware, it can send us into a more depressive state – and we could even start to feel more physical effects such as headaches, digestive tract issues (IBS, ulcers, GERD, etc), anxiety/panic attacks, and so on.

When the 100 year old paper mill that founded our little northern town was shut down last year (and only 3 days before Christmas thanks grrrrr), as I am sure you can imagine the population of the entire town was shocked. But after the shock, of course came the anger, rage, sadness and grief … and it was being experienced by EVERYONE.

With everyone in town feeling the same emotions – and in extremely high levels – for me it was very difficult to maneuver around town just to do the smallest of errands. Being as empathic as I am, I couldn’t ignore the cyclone of negativity sweeping throughout the area. I would sit in the truck and just cry. It’s all I could do. Such sorrow. Such grief and sense of loss. Such rage! It was too much for me to bear … so it ended up I didn’t leave my home again for a good solid 2 weeks.

In that two-week time period though, I had to do something to help myself. I had to get rid of the horribly nasty energy that was bombarding my own energetic field – and then PROTECT myself from any further influences. I am now going to share with you my own personal practice for cleansing your energy field from those negative energies and then PROTECTING that newly cleansed aura from any further negativity.


I personally use two of the most powerful cleansing tools known – and I use them BOTH together: water and sage.

The first step is to take either a bath or shower. While in the water, visualize the negativity falling away from your body and swirling down the drain (and I visualize negative energy as black ‘blobs’). When you notice that there isn’t too many more of those black ‘blob’s falling away from your body, you can then get out of the bath or shower.

After your cleansing shower or bath, it is then time to smudge with sage. And no I do NOT mean the sage you use for cooking!!! My husband tried that on me once when I asked him to get me the sage. LOL! Wrong sage! LOL! Now, you can use loose sage like I do (sage grows everywhere up here so there’s no shortage), or you can purchase sage smudging wands/sticks. Either will work; I just use the loose sage because I add cedar leaves when it’s smoldering.

As the sage is smoldering, you start from the top of your head and work your way down. Waft the smoke over your head 3 times. Then, waft the smoke to the ears, the eyes, and then the mouth (think along the lines of see no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil lol). 3 times for each. Then work your way down further; waft the smoke towards your heart – again 3 times. Then your hips, legs, knees – all the way to your feet. At this point you are now fully cleansed of any negative energies. I usually then proceed to smudge my entire house – just for good measure. You don’t have to, but if you feel the need then there’s nothing wrong in doing so.


First step: visualize yourself as being fully encompassed by a highly-energized bubble of pink and green light (pink and green light are the colors of Divine love and healing). No negativity, psychic attacks, etc can penetrate this electrified bubble that’s surrounding you. It will just bounce right off of it. If you feel the need, likewise envision your home, friends, family members, etc as being within their own bubbles of protection as well.

Second and final step: get your hands on some hematite. Hematite is an awesome gemstone known for it’s negativity repelling qualities. It also actually helps to protect from unwanted spirit visitors. I always suggest that you get the gemstone in a necklace where it can always be worn and is placed closest to the heart. If not a necklace, then a ring or bracelet that is placed on the LEFT hand or wrist. If you don’t like wearing jewelry, you can most certainly just carry the stone itself in your pocket or purse. Just so long as you are in ownership of the stone and it is around you somewhere. But let it be known that it is most powerful when worn by the owner.

Repeat this process whenever you feel the need and/or when you find yourself in the midst of a negativity storm.

* As a note, the bubble visualization is also GREAT for trying to repel against negative events as well as to help attract positive outcomes to situations! I’ve used it on at least two separate occasions that I can immediately recall when I was a single mother: both times it worked: it repelled a potential negative event from happening and in another situation it attracted the exact outcome that I was hoping for – and in both situations it was basically ‘against all odds.’

Much love and blessings to everyone,
Lisa Caza