Having Expectations

Do You Have Expectations?”

By: Tania Bartlett of Soul Writings By Tania

Have you ever had an expectation and then were disappointed when it is not done in the way that you “expected” it to be? What about being treated the same way you treat others? Do you expect them to have the same heart and care like you do?

I know for myself this is huge and is something that I am still working on. It is not easy! Think of how freeing it would be to live a life free of expectations! Not everybody is considerate or thoughtful like you are and that is just reality unfortunately. We hope that they will respond how we hope or think they should, or do things that we would do to be helpful but that is just not the case. A good quote I read was “Expectations are the root of all heartache” and that sums it up well.

We ask ourselves, how do we handle this? How can we live without expectations? I feel that there are different aspects to this. Being a parent, there are certain things that are expected. For example: going to school, good behaviour, values, manners, helpful, kindness to others, good hygiene, among many other. These types are expectations that set boundaries on behaviour to guide them into functioning adults. This is not what I’m writing about. When we go out of our way to help others and it is either not appreciated or they don’t say thank you as we would do, we set up that expectation that everyone is grateful, well mannered and would respond like you would. When we expect them to respond in a certain way, we set ourselves up for disappointment. Keep focus on the task at hand and just do things to help and not “expect” a thank you, recognition or what ever you feel you need. Do it out of the kindness of your heart not your ego. You can acknowledge the unkindness of others but do not harp on it or keep thinking of it over and over. Let it go. It is not about giving up or thinking negatively of others. It’s about releasing our attachment to outcomes and eliminating the need for validation. To let go, is to lovingly surrender to what is and be at peace with it.

This does not mean that you become a door mat! Trust me, I’ve done my fair share of saying “Your Welcome” when I don’t get a “Thank you”. Not taking things personally is the hardest aspect of this. Make sure that you are doing things for people for the right reasons, check your motivation behind it. Your motivation is the foundation of your thoughts and actions. Be honest with yourself. You might be able to hide your intentions from others, but you can’t hide them from yourself. It’s not always easy to do! All we can do is to be the best person you can be and make sure that you are authentic in your kindness. One of the easiest ways to practice “no expectations” is by being an anonymous donor by paying it forward. Next time your in the drive thorough, buy for the person behind you. You are not “expecting” a thank you because by the time they know what happened, you are long gone but it warms their heart, they are grateful, puts a smile on their face and they will hopefully pay it forward as well. This is a first step to releasing expectations.

As the quote by Sri Chinmoy states, “Peace begins when expectations end”. Living a peaceful life is what we all strive for. And it is in your grasp! All you need to do is relax, feel with your heart, live life for you and all that you love. We are all human and there will be setbacks.Keep your thoughts positive, your energy clear and a bunch of faith. When you feel doubt creep in and those expectations start to come into your head, stop yourself in your tracks and change focus and reframe, what can you do to accept the other person’s actions or position without judgement?

Is there a situation currently in your life where you hold expectations? What can you do today to help you let go of them?

Cheers 🙂
Tania xo

About Tania: A friend of Lisa Caza’s and popular in their community, she is a mother to 2 fantastic teen sons and step-son. Living this crazy and wild, beautiful life with her Twin Flame. Together they are unstoppable! They are each others balance, yin and yang. Tania is also an Entrepreneur who owns and operates Cameron’s Beach Campground during the summer months. Energy healing, workshops and writing are her passions. Follow her in her Facebook Fanpage and visit her blog.

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My Experience With Spirit Possession

Spirit Possession IS REAL – And Here’s How I Dealt With It

Well now, I bet you all never thought in a million years that you would see me write or talk about spirit possession. As many know for so many years I held a lot of skepticism regarding possession – mainly just because of course I never experienced it myself.

Well, I can’t say that anymore … and I have been forced to swallow my pride so to speak and accept that spirit possession DOES HAPPEN! Now, I know what you’re asking: “What in the HELL could have possibly  possessed (pardon the pun) Lisa Caza to change her beliefs?” Well, I’m about to tell you – and it isn’t very nice:

If you read my last blog post about Confronting & Finalizing Long-Standing Issues, then you obviously know that my ex-husband just recently crossed over in September. Well my dear friends … approximately a week after he passed that’s when my experience with spirit possession started.

Yup. It was him. And to be blunt, whenever Yvon and I least expected it he would “enter” into Yvon – possessing him.  Like I just said, it would happen when we least expected it – out of the blue – and just as quickly as he would possess him he would be gone. How do we know it was a spirit possession and that it was specifically my ex-husband?

  1. It was no coincidence that it started to occur just after he passed away. We NEVER EVER experienced spirit possession before.
  2. While being possessed, Yvon would say and/or do things that only my ex-husband would have said or done (and I will NOT speak in detail things that were said and done) – and Yvon didn’t ever know the actual behaviors, etc that my ex used to exhibit. And when I confronted Yvon about the behaviors that he exhibited, he felt so sorry and stated that he would never normally say or do such things – which of course is true.
  3. Yvon “lost time” – he wouldn’t remember a darn thing and admits to having periods of “black out” – no memory of anything he said or did.
  4. Yvon has some mediumship abilities and he admitted to feeling like he was “fighting off” the spirit of my ex on certain occasions.
  5. Once the spirit of my ex was HARSHLY confronted by both myself and Yvon – and also after I actually had a REAL visitation in a dream and I rescued him – we haven’t had any further occurrences … so far anyways.

This experience has rattled me – and again obviously changed my entire belief system regarding spirit possession. I don’t call myself the “skeptical psychic” for no reason LOL! I only talk about things that I personally experienced first hand in my life – because I have “proof” that whatever it is actually exists. So folks, it is no joke – and something that you really don’t want to mess around with. And should you find yourself in a situation where you believe that a spirit is possessing either yourself or someone you know, remember the 5 points that I highlighted above – for they are clues to watch out for.  Furthermore, if that is a situation that you’re in, take immediate measures to rid the spirit possession itself: confront the spirit very angrily and sternly (Yvon and I were yelling at the spirit one night – right out loud), smudge with burning sage your entire house as well as every person affected, call upon Archangel Michael for added protection, and even perform a “rescue” like I was basically forced to do in my visitation dream: tell the spirit it is okay, that everything is all right, and encourage the spirit to go to the light.

I have to admit too that the possession itself was starting to get very real and very scary for me because I knew that if we didn’t do something – and right quickly – things would just get worse: they would escalate and even become violent (especially considering who my ex-husband was – many know I experienced a lot of abuse from him in our marriage). So, with that said, again if you suspect a spirit possession, it is extremely important to address the possession as quickly as possible. Get rid of it! We didn’t need to do this, but even if you need to contact a priest or wiccan … DO IT!

I don’t mean to scare anyone, but I just wanted to make sure that everyone does understand the severity of a spirit possession and that it is actually no laughing matter (which yes that’s what I used to do whenever I saw something on television about it). Especially during this time of year – Halloween – the veil between worlds is at its thinnest or weakest; therefore making it a lot easier for spirits to communicate … and do some shit-disturbing if they’re so inclined LOL! So why not take this opportunity – possession or no possession – to give yourself some added protection by smudging with sage, wearing gemstones to protect from negativity and spirits, and FOR GOD SAKE DON’T USE NO DARN OUJIA BOARDS! LOL!!!!!!!!!!

Take care everyone … and all I have to say is this: a part of me is freaked out at my experience, but another part of me is grateful because not only have I learned something, it has also opened my mind to the idea that there are likely other concepts out there that I’ve had trouble accepting before but of which could very well be strong possibilities.

Just because you haven’t experienced something, it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t exist or doesn’t happen! It just means that you don’t have personal knowledge of it!

Lisa Caza, 2017

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